Is this normal? And any advice on how to deal with it.

My mothers a crazy hoarder who to this point keeps things from 10 years ago which has no value but dirtying and occupying space in the house to the point my home has been closed to visitors to the better part of a decade. Due to my father being embarrassed and not wanting his family to see the state of his home.

And my melting point and why i am ranting is that when I was clearing the fridge I got rid of a lot of expired products which has expired minimum early last year or from 5+ years ago. Not only does she not allow me to throw them she claim she can eat it and not die whereas if the rest of my family eat it we will die.

Which when u think about makes absolutely no fucking senses. And why she thinks like is cause she uses essential oils.

Aside from that she's a hypocrite that complains about everything while doing nothing herself. Recently she got angry at me for going out and not cleaning the house when she in my 18 years of living has not once cleaned the house nor threw any of her belongings away and always paints herself as the victim and acts like she does all the work.

Despite in my upbringing she was absent for more then half and focus only on work never taking care of her kids only abusing and gaslighting us to the point where my brother goes for therapy and ive contemplated comitting suicide since i was 5.

I honestly cant fathom what goes through her brain and hate the fact despite all she's made me and my sibling go through my dad still refuses to divorce her claiming that cause she is his wife he can't divorce her.

Which honestly the thing that pisses me off the most. And due to this my brother when he goes to the army is not coming out on his off days for visiting so he can avoid my mom and dad.

P.S: My brother and I have been taken away from our parents before by CPS due abuse up to a year.

also my other family members do not help out due to them believing its not right to meddle in other families businesses.

Im honestly close to my breaking point and am tired js came of a morning shift at the hospital and dont want to have to deal with this with the added fact that my cousin recently passed on.