Manager doesn’t respect social boundaries and expects everyone to divulge their personal lives

There’s a difference between casual water cooler talk at work, asking how someone’s weekend was in passing and trying to be friendly vs. forcing social obligations at work and making it part of the day today.

Ever since he got promoted, my manager has been a thorn in my side for almost two years. We work remotely and have meetings every day to discuss stats but he’s always putting someone on the spot to tell the team about something they shared on their personal social media, and on Fridays/mondays he’s goes around the room and asks everyone what their weekend plans are/how said plans went.

It’s like show and tell. If we want to tell each other what we’re doing outside of work, it should be because we want to, not because we’re called on. So I’ve barely been engaging to try and make it a point that I’m not sharing my personal life on demand, but then he pushes more. And he’ll message me individually oversharing about his life, his house and etc. as if to try and get me to open up more.

I actually went above him to our former manager recently and told them how his management has been affecting me, making me have a pit in my stomach every time I come back to work after a trip or posting something on my Instagram story knowing he’s gonna put me on the spot to talk about it. That shouldn’t be how work feels. I don’t even hate the job but he’s sucked the soul out of it for me.

She basically gave me the green light to be blunt with him and I think that’s my only choice left. I got back from a bachelorette party recently and he tried to make me talk about it in two different meetings. I’m not gonna tell you I was shaking my ass at bars all weekend you fucking weirdo.