The Struggle With Not Being Sexual At All As A Gay Man.

I am 24 yo. I have never been able to bond completely with men. I'm gay as I am attracted strictly to males. But I have never had the urgency to have a connection whether it's emotional or sexual with another man yet.

I think what happens is that I am truly not a sexual individual. My libido is very low and that is a HUGE problem when you are young and a male. Realistically speaking, most men I've known in my life are highly sexual regardless of their sexual orientation. Most men I've known seem to always think about something sexual and fantasize about it, but that hasn't happened to me.

At times I feel emotionally in need to give someone love, loyalty/fidelity, and encouragement but I've never met a man interested in those things. Most gay/bi men I have met think immediately of sex and how they should hook up with me and "introduce me" to sex. That primal approach turns me off completely....

Its not that I think I will never meet someone. Maybe one day I will meet that man.... But I find it very difficult in this world we live in as real and deep connections are becoming less of a need for people.