Narcissist - MILFH Making my husband's bilateral knee replacement surgery about her.. and more narcissistic behaviors.

My Mother in law and I are no contact, have been for about 2 years, as I refuse to be sucked into or entertain her delusions.

That said, my husband had bilateral knee replacement surgery a week ago, he didn't call and make a formal announcement, so obviously, in her mind, he is "mad at her". She sends this unhinged message to my daughter MIL: "I can't believe YOUR dad jad surgery and didn't tell me about it! If I ever have any more surgeries, I'm not telling him about it either"

My daughter refused to respond to the stupidity.

She then proceeds to lob about 15 -20 messages to my sleepy (Dopey) husband about her displeasure. He said to her "well if that pisses you off, just wait till I die"

For context- We are all convinced that she's going to outlive all of us - (We think Satan has made it clear he doesn't want to be stuck with her, she's more useful to him here on Earth, punishing humanity)

Anyway, my daughter, my autistic daughter, the one she (MILFH) called the "R" word, and has had no relationship with, is now supposed to make time for her? We are supposed to forget all the cruel things she's said and done? This is why I am so grateful to be no contact. I wish my husband would block her, but it's his mom, and his problem, especially if he chooses engagement. I served my time with abusive parents, I don't need to add to the trauma.

Now part 2- my husband's brother, his abuser, is currently in the hospital. The one my husband's mother let move in after his father, my FIL died. MIL defended my husband's brother's perversios, (KNOWING) he repeatedly abused my husband sexually. Stating previously, "well boys have needs" followes by this banger " it is all your fault for not telling me you were abused".

She left a voicemail for him preaching all this "forgiveness" B.S. because the Bible says so. Yeah , well it also says those who hurt children, should have a stone tied around their necks and be cast into the sea. But, she only reads parts of the Bible that she can use as a weapon later. *SO* Very Christian of her. Anyway she tells my husband, that if I was *any kind of wife* I would drive him the 5 hours to visit them, when he declined, saying I'm on blood thinner because I can't walk well yet, the doctor isn't going to like me spending 5 hours in a car- she let it go...for all of about an hour. She then calls back wailing like a dying cow that we *must* come at once, because his brother is on life support and dying . He isn't- he was put on oxygen, as he has poorly controlled diabetes, and what I believe to be mid -stage cihrrosis with ascites. Either way, NEWS FLASH, Lady!! The answer is atill a resounding and complete *no*!

So she calls her sister, *my husband's aunt* then his other brother, having them call my husband and try to guilt him into coming up there literally 5 days after total bilateral knee replacement (cue the flying monkeys) . All of this *knowing* he just had a major surgery- but her needs come first, and she doesn't like to drive in big cities, so the ulterior motive was to have a chauffeur, and the opportunity to dial up the drama and manufacture some Hallmark moment, I guess.... Hard pass!

Anyway, just venting because it would do my heart good for this woman and that family to go back to where they came from ->🔥 thanks for listening ((hugs))