Husband Moved Out Months Ago, Things Improved, But I Want Him Home Am I Being Selfish?

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hi I'm a 32F, and my husband 34m and I have been living separately since late January after a big argument where I asked for space. He went to stay with his cousin 36m, and what was supposed to be a few days has turned into months.

Here's the thing: we still spend every day together, and we have a 2F daughter. Surprisingly, the separation has actually improved our marriage. We have chill conversations now instead of arguing over silly things. It was just too much for both of us before. We split our daughter's time pretty evenly – I have her 3.5 days a week, and he has her the same.

The problem is, it's starting to affect me. We get along so well now, and I know it hurts him as much as it hurts me not seeing our daughter on "my" nights. He sends pictures from his cousin's house while they're watching TV, asking for pictures of her because he misses her. I do the same when she's with him.

I brought up the idea of him moving back, but he's hesitant. He says this change has helped him so much and it's also helped me, and he doesn't want to go back to the way things were just to probably end up arguing again. I reluctantly agreed, but in my head, I desperately want us to be a family in the same house again. It kills me not seeing my daughter on his days.

I fully trust him with her and his cousin – he's a wonderful father and a good husband. His cousin is a good guy too. But not seeing your child hurts any parent, right?

I don't know if I'm selfish to feel like this. I love having him with me, but I can see the improvements this separation has brought. It's stopped the arguments and made us appreciate each other more, but I want things as they were, all together.

what should I do? Am I being selfish? Any advice is appreciated.