Don’t get me wrong, Monica and Ross are a great sibling duo for TV, but Phoebe and Ross feel way more like actual real life siblings to me.

Like, yes, Ross and Monica definitely roast each other, but Phoebe and Ross’s dynamic just hits differently. Their roasting feels way more personal, like the kind of digs that come from fundamentally not understanding each other but still knowing exactly how to push each other’s buttons. Like real siblings. 

I think a big part of it is that Phoebe and Ross are total opposites. If it weren’t for the friend group, they probably wouldn’t even be friends. And that’s kind of what makes it feel so real, like siblings who didn’t choose each other and don’t really “get” each other but are stuck together anyway.

But when it comes down to it, they always show up for each other.

Phoebe is also one of Ross’s biggest supporters when it comes to Rachel. She’s the one who drives him to the airport, she’s the first person he tells about not getting the annulment, and she’s the one who hits him with “Or you could get everything you’ve ever wanted since you were 15.” Like, she gets him.

And Ross shows up for Phoebe too. Buying her the bike is one of the sweetest things he does in the entire series, and even when he’s being peak Ross like with Mike, it still comes from him wanting to show that Phoebe has had meaningful relationships and deserves to be taken seriously.

It just feels like, underneath all the arguing and confusion, there’s this solid, unspoken loyalty between them. 

Do you guys agree? Drop your favourite Ross and Phoebe moment below if you do 💙

Phoebe and Ross’ realistic sibling dynamic