AITAH if I [23M] want my girlfriend [22F] to report a guy from her past for what he did?
Me [M23] and my girlfriend [F22]have been dating for 5 going’s on 6 years and we have gotten to know each other pretty well. Too well honestly considering how much she has told me about her past. The main thing is that she said she didn’t want to do anything with the guy she did hook up with but she still refuses to report him for rape
A little background, My girlfriend has told me quite a bit about her past. We started dating around junior year of high school and she did have a past when we started dating. She has admitted to sending nudes to a large sum of guys, (10-13 is what she says that she remembers). And some of them being friends that I had to cut off communication with and she also gave oral to a guy as well. She hooked up with him around 7-8 times and she let him cum in her mouth every time they got together. She was always willing to do sexual things with him but with me it’s different. She has also snuck multiple guys into her house and claims that nothing happened between them… but that’s what hurts because I don’t know if she is being truthful because she can’t remember certain things. But she claims that she never had “PIV” sex before we got together.
What bothers me is that we were talking about the guy she did physically hook up with and every time she talks about it she tells me how much she hated it. She always does tell me she hates him and doesn’t care about him and how much she didn’t want to do anything with him. And that she only did it because she felt forced to. I brought up the idea of actually taking action and reporting him for rape. And after I brought that up she got upset at me for even making her consider that?
It doesn’t make sense to me because if she actually regrets what she did and truly did feel forced to do certain things with him, then what is her issue with actually taking action and reporting it? And if she does hate him like she says she does why would she be so quick to try to protect him? It hurts because it feels like she’s trying to protect him for some reason and idk what to do.
AITA for thinking this way?
Posted Apr 8, 2026, 2:48 AM UTC