How are you supposed to have a good personality if you're ugly in the face?

How are you supposed to have a good personality if you're ugly in the face?

Why can't people accept that even if you have a good personality, if you're ugly, people are less likely to want to engage with you. So you can be as nice, as funny, as interesting, as confident, but if people don't show a willingness to engage with you, then it doesn't matter what your personality is..

Not to mention that this type of rejection and social exclusion will make you depressed and anxious, but you're expected to act like you're not.. for the sake of what? It's just pretend

In my experience as an ugly person when I was confident, people always got irritated and felt my confidence was undeserved and tried to find ways to put me down.. then people will say "you gotta be confident, you can't be arrogant" that's the thing people perceive confidence on ugly people as arrogance

If people don't respond positively to you, it seems almost impossible to have a good personality

Me being nice has gotten me perceived as weak

Me being friendly has gotten me perceived as desperate

Me being confident has gotten me perceived as arrogant and delusional

Me trying to be social has gotten me outcasted and given one word replies

Me trying to be helpful has gotten me unappreciated

All this negative feedback has made me depressed, and bitter, I can't control that, I can't force myself to be happy if everyone outcasts and talks shit about me for being ugly

I can't force myself to be sociable if people aren't willing to include me and respect me

I don't know where people came up with the idea that people perceive you the way you perceive yourself. A more accurate saying is people perceive you how you look, which then affects how they treat you, which affects how you maneuver future interactions and affects how you perceive yourself