Bachelorette drop outs

TLDR- I was very upfront about total costs before asking for commitments to my bachelorette. After getting a double commitment from people they’re now dropping out and it’s changing the costs drastically for others. What do I do?

Details:

I’m having a bachelorette in June that started with 11 girls and is currently Down to 8. I planned all in cost for Thursday - Sunday of $680/pp which is house, meals, transportation, activities, drinks… everything but flights. Invites went out in November 2025 with RSVP March 2026. After the March 1 RSVP I texted everyone to double confirm because the final air bnb house payment happened March 31 and after that it’s not refundable.

Sure enough this week people started dropping out for various reasons - flights are expensive, general scheduling difficulty with PTO, other cost related reasons which make me feel like they’re subtly telling me they won’t be paying their share for not attending.

The problem now is the $680 would change for everyone else if I wave the cost of the 3 people who have dropped out by about $250/pp which isn’t what I intended. I cannot afford to cover the drop out costs. I was very upfront that I’d be booking and putting money down when I reached out to double confirm so I’m frustrated people didnt let me know they were unsure then.

I’ve reached out to the restaurants and activities I’ve booked to see if there’s flexibility but we got discounts for the initial 10+ person group size so I’m not sure how pricing may adjust. What would you do?

FYI we are all 30+