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SCynoe

Mind is still Sir, but the body is lagging

Had life-threatening surgery a year ago. Recovery is slow. Mentally? I’m 100%. I still feel like my old self, still have that drive, still that same Dom.

But the body isn't the same. The hardest part is finding my place in my lifestyle. I’m hitting physical walls, and I even have lapses where I can’t verbally communicate at all.

It’s frustrating as hell. How do you maintain authority when your voice cuts out or your body fails the mental command?

Anyone else had to adapt their dynamic around a major medical recovery? Trying to find my "new normal" without losing myself.

Posted Apr 8, 2026, 2:51 AM UTC

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