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theCodedGuy

Need advice

Question

Hey guys, please be respectful.

I am a socially anxious person, I overthink a lot and also dealing with depression.

There is a girl at work that I like, she is on my team so we interact daily but only about work stuff. She is pretty comfortable talking to me about work. The problem is that I feel very insecure/inferior when she talks to other co workers in a very informal way. I believe they vibe together more.

I do understand that having feelings is natural but they are becoming a problem now, I honestly do mot want to deal with this especially on top of my depression and anxiety.

Moreover, I have been thinking about her a lot after work and looks like I am obsessed with her. I mostly spend my time alone after work in my room, playing games, watching Netflix or random stuff on YT. I constantly keep on thinking about her and feel bad.

I am very confused if I should ask her our or try to move on.

Please help, any tips on overcoming this are appreciated.

Posted Apr 8, 2026, 2:54 AM UTC

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