How do you make time for your partners?

My partner works on the road and is gone for long periods of time, so when he finally does come home I struggle with just sitting down and enjoying his company. My mind is always thinking of the “what’s next list” and if my house isn’t clean and tidy I feel like I can’t stop. This also ties in to our sex life too as I feel like I can’t stop doing things during the day and the core night time I just want to go to sleep and get as much sleep as possible since I co sleep with my kids and I’m already not getting good sleeps. Or I will lay I bed a little bit once my kids are asleep to have a little bit of “me time”. I can’t stand when my house is dirty but it’s constantly getting cluttered from my small children so I’m just constantly picking up and cleaning because I can’t function in a cluttered house.

I also feel like when my husband does come

Home he just messes with the routine of things and how I handle things when he’s away, he’s also just constantly making messes too and doesn’t do a great job of cleaning up after himself, which also adds more to the stress of things.