How to attract better friends?

I tend to attract domineering, possessive, controlling people. Narcissistic and lacking emotional intelligence. Very insecure as well. They view me as extensions of themselves and don’t respect my individuality/autonomy, yet always try to copy me as well by adopting my hobbies, taste, interests, and even dreams/goals (often starting a strange one sided competition..) They seek me out for stability, grounding, support yet they can’t offer me the same and I feel extremely disoriented around them. They all expect me to have no boundaries, and bulldoze the ones I have, which usually leads to the relationship ending with them offended that I’m not tolerating their shit anymore. It all feels vampiric.

I’m extremely over it and honestly would rather just be alone at this point since it seems to be reoccurring thing. But I know there are other types like me in the world so I’m trying to be more optimistic. I would love to befriend other infps or really any other type that’s softer, non-aggressive, chill, and more independent.

Have you found your people? What are their types? How did you find them?