Avoidant- vacation

2 days post breakup. I’m still trying to process. We broke up and he said he is fearful of getting hurt, and said that he has been feeling very insecure, and his past is popping up in intrusive thoughts. Before the split he was very hot, cold on and off and then totally withdrew. A month ago he booked a trip to New Orleans and I had paid him for my ticket. We are 10 days away from the trip.

After his breakup text we had a conversation on the phone. We discussed everything- he told me I wasn’t too much, I didn’t come on to fast (I was following his pace) - that he really respects me and cares for me, and wants to be cool, and all the future plans of up and future together talk was all real..but then the conversation of New Orleans came up. I did tell him we could still go and experience a getaway without all the loud life stresses (which there’s been a lot recently)

He said he’d sleep on it. That was Sunday, it’s now Wednesday. What do I do? Ask for my money back? Or be patient? He booked this trip for us and because I love New Orleans- I would really like to go, not to convince him to be with me but I deserve my vacation that I’ve been planning also. I’m a fucking mess.