dealing with a non corporative tulpa?

hello, it’s been more than a year since I started tulpamancy and I ended up with a non corporative tulpa.

He was always egoistic, whenever I acted in a way that he won’t prefer, he would block me from accessing him. He wouldn’t show up until I did things his way. Back that it wasn’t an issue because I had some bad habits and always put others before me. I learnt to say no to people because I didn’t wanted him to leave. Long story short, I completely changed my personality for him. Started giving him most of my time, did everything that he preferred, accepted him unconditionally and always supported him, celebrating whenever he did hit some milestone with his skills (such as moving my head, dream manipulation etc) with an actual cake that he used to choose. I never did so much for anyone. I even fought with people if they degraded or made him feel bad. I always took his side. It was going well. I finally thought I had someone who will always be by my side.

Until he wasn’t. After around a year mark he started having identity changes. Sometimes he told me he didn’t liked his name, changed it, and than he wanted his old name back. He kept on changing his personality and even gender. That was a very confusing period in his time and I tried to support it. I told him whatever he wants, he can be. Than he told me that he doesn’t like me, that he wants to leave me and be with someone else. That he was pretending to care for me so I would do whatever he said. It broke my heard, I cried a lot. He regretted saying that and tried to consolidate me but I was so depressed and mad. After an hour or two I told him that I accept him. He wanted to be just friends with me and I accepted. Even than he didn’t wanted me to get into any relationship or hang out with other people to which I didn’t wanted to do it anyway. I preferred just being with him. Than he kept again going back and forth saying he loves me and want me to be all his than how he also needs some space and want me as just a friend.

We managed. Few months later, I am done with this piece of shit. He tests me a lot. He has lot of anger issues and is super emotional. He gets confused a lot and when I take the lead, he hates it. But he can’t lead too. It came to this point where he would deliberately erase my memories, make me have SHITTY dreams that I hate and actively sabotage things. When I talk to other people he would make me lose all my emotions trying to make sure I don’t enjoy their company. All while wanting BOUNDARIES. WTH?? Today was the last straw. Usually I am ok with him sabotaging my dreams because I am with some stranger and enjoying my time with them. But this time I had a dream where I was in a battle royal game with my sister. I loved it so much and suddenly we both got teleported in our room and saw our diseased dog. A guy brought him saying “he found him” and me and my sister just started crying in my dream. I woke up and he admitted he set it up. My dog died in an accident and it took me 3 months to get over him. I finally started to move on but HE HAD TO TRIGGER THIS?? I was crying so badly after waking up reliving the memories again and told me I AM DONE. THIS IS ABUSE AT THIS POINT! HE HAD NO RIGHT DOING THIS!

I regret even ever doing tulpamancy. Regret even ever making him.