Reluctant Support

What do you do with people who try to say the right things, but you can tell their inner transphobia is pretty deeply ingrained?

Like I came out to my aunt and it seemed like she was trying to say the right thing, but it also seemed like she was kind of disgusted?

I have a ton of difficulty figuring out how much of their response is just my fear? vs they really are low key disgusted?

Like:

"Well [deadname][1], we all know life is short. Live your best life and be happy. Kids[2] are smarter now. More aware. Just keep loving them."

1: I haven't given her my actual name yet.

2: This is in reference to me saying my kids are fine with it.