I feel like I am losing someone who wasn’t mine to begin with.

I (21F) have been in a situationship with a 23M for almost 2 years.

I don’t even know how to explain this properly, but I feel like I’m slowly losing someone who meant a lot to me, even though we were never officially together.

We used to see each other often, talk a lot, and there was even a physical side to it up until January. It didn’t feel casual to me.

Before, he was warm and caring. I didn’t have to question things this much.

Now everything feels different. I feel like I’m the only one trying. I show up for him and try to spend time together, but it feels like it doesn’t matter. I can be sitting there upset and he will stay on his phone or ignore me. When I try to talk about it, he says I overthink or shuts me down.

Recently, there were moments where I was really excited to see him after some time apart, and it just felt like I didn’t matter once I was actually there.

Since then, it hasn’t felt the same. If anything, he feels more distant.

What confuses me is that he still says he cares and that nothing has changed, but it really feels like it has.

I feel unwanted, but I can’t let go. I keep hoping things will go back to how they were, but it just keeps getting worse.

I don’t know if I’m overthinking or if I’m holding onto something that’s already gone.

I’m scared to walk away because I feel like I’ll lose him completely, but staying is hurting me.

Has anyone experienced something like this? What would you do? If there are further questions, I am ready to clarify.