Another potty training post. I know. I know. If you care to read, please please help me

LO is 23 months. Still in diapers. She has days where she asks to sit on toilet and she will go number 1 and 2 on these days in the toilet. She’ll let us know that she’s gotta go. Recently she’s been asking to not wear diapers. Awesome. I wanted to wait longer but when your own kid is pretty much asking to be trained, I feel like you gotta start.

Well. We gave her underwear and things got weird. She stopped pooping in toilet, only pees. She will sit on toilet for like 20 mins and push like she’s wanting to go with no avail. Then, often, the urge to go will come and she’ll panic, stand up from the potty and frantically ask for a diaper to poop in. The more we ask if she wants to sit on the toilet, the less she’s been using it. If we try to put her on it when she doesn’t want, she flips out and I don’t think it’s a good idea to force her to sit. I’m sure that really will make it worse.

Feel like she was less pressured in her diapers. She knew what the potty was for and when and how to use it. Now that she’s got the diapers off, she must feel the anxiety of not having that safety net? Also, I think she’s using her underwear like a diaper. There’s no urgency. She just goes in it and immediately feels wet and asks to be changed. Our behavior hasn’t changed much other than saying like “hey let’s go sit on the toilet I’ll bring a book” vs. letting her initiate it. Maybe that’s a problem? She also pooped in the bath and even though I did not make a big deal About it at all (accidents happen etc), she got really upset and talks about it every day.

I think I want to go naked but is that taking a step backward? This whole thing feels truly impossible.