AIO Terrible birthday

It's my 50th birthday today. The only gift I've had is flowers from my lovely auntie. I've been married for 19 years, have 2 teenage children and live on a property with my mother separate house). Mother and husband are perfectly capable of ordering stuff for themselves online and do so regularly. Children have been trying hard, but we live rurally, so they can't physically get much without someone taking them out. It didn't occur to either of them to order online and ask a grown up to help financially if they needed. Both are upset that I"m upset. They all know lots of daft things I like (dogs, wine, horses, chocolate etc) so a small gesture would have been lovely. No cake, no gifts, I did get cards. I suggested take out tonight but husband disappeared upstairs when it was time to order, reappeared an hour or so later and seemed surprised I hadn't ordered even though there was no mention of getting food. Husband kept going out today for "urgent" things (taking the lawnmower to be repaired and picking up a set of new gates. I spent most of the day alone. I don't think he could have made it any clearer how unimportant I am. I'm now the bad guy for being upset that nobody could be bothered to do anything at all.