Findom should be this and ONLY this…

Is it strictly a kink with a financial element or is it a side hustle with a sexual element?

Should it be a one off or long term?

Does it need to be hard boiled, soft boiled? Is it only findom when Mercury is in reverse cowgirl?

Well the only answer is… it’s nuanced.

It should be defined by the parties within the dynamic in a safe, sane and consensual way.

Want it extreme? Read up on CNC and suffer to your hearts content (not to be confused with actual self harm, that’s not kink)

Want it a slower pace or within a reasonable budget? That doesn’t make you a “bad” sub or even a time waster but I would strongly encourage effective communication to avoid those perceptions (thinking back to a recent post about “ain’t got no b!tches”)

There is no bible (yet - until I write it and monetise it 😉) do what works best for ALL involved.

That doesn’t mean violating the other parties boundaries to have yours met.