I'm loosing my sister

Ever since I have put strong boundaries with my parent in place I feel as though my sister is loosing interest in our relationship more and more.

I'm trying not to take it personally as I'm sure shes catching the majority of my parents crazy.

But I feel more and more that I'm making excuses for her too , the same way I do/did for our mother.

She frequently ignores my messages , leaving me on seen for 5+ weeks at a time. I understand this is a big "please don't talk to me" sign so I don't message until she responds.

I have been trying to meet up with her for ages too. I live about an hours drive away so figured it was too much of a stretch for her to visit but today I saw her post in my town... She was here , she was having a day out , she knew I wanted to see her and yet the message i sent over a month ago is still on seen.

i think maybe there is a lot behind scenes that means i cant understand it fully.

It hurts my heart that my sister and I do not hold the same closeness or trust as we did and it hurts more that I feel confused about it all due to the mother obstable.

I knew cutting contact / going low contact with my mother would cause friction in my life but i think ive under estimated how the wider social circle would react.

everyone in the circle really is scared to death of this big old BIG BEE!!!!!!!