AITAH for getting angry at my boyfriend autistic boyfriend?

(if any of u are autistic pls comment how ur mind works and if this is a realistic thing autistic people do)

My boyfriend(28M) and I(24F) in a long distance relationship.We love each other so much i think he is the best person in the world but he sometimes makes me really tired.He has adhd and he recently found out he is also autistic.He is so sensitive and gets frustrated so easily which makes it so hard to talk with sometimes.He never gets mad at me but he gets frustrated about the situations(mostly about the mistreatments that happens to me or his issues with his family). He gets so upset about bad stuff that happens to me like recently i was complaining about doctors not helping me and he got so frustrated and started crying,he cries a lot in general which i like that he is so caring but sometimes it’s so overwhelming.I forget my issues when he starts crying cause i have to help him calm down it also happens when he does something that upsets me and i tell him that and he starts crying apologizing then it makes me feel so bad and i start apologizing when i was right.

I also have adhd and anxiety issues and he triggers me sometimes.I’m walking on eggshells when i joke about something, or not wanting to watch something he likes(which %95 of the time i watch them).He had some family issues and they told him to move out so he can start on his life and this really made him so depressed.He says he wasn’t ready to move out yet.He is living with grandparent’s for 2 months now.And he is unemployed for i think 8-9months.

Which he was focusing on his school then so i didn’t mind.But for last 6-7 months he was free(not graduated but he didn’t had classes) and he didn’t try to find a job.He doesn’t do anything productive and it kills him he wants to do productive stuff then play video games all day or sleep.And now that family issue happened he is having really hard time to move on from that.Which I feel like such a bad person but he is agreeing with me so idk.Because he will come to my country and he needs to save money for the visit and we will marry in near future.i will also pay for stuff but he also needs to pay.

My family loves him but rn he is not the best future husband material in their eyes.He procrastinates a lot which i can relate a lot so i know how hard it is but he is still procrastinating on his cv.I just wish he gets some stuff done and and becomes a bit more less frustrated.He promises for months but i didn’t see any improvement yet.He is having really hard time with his family so i will support him and help him move on.I just don’t know if he can.I don’t want him to change his personality but i want him to change some traits.Cause i feel like he can’t handle situations,which makes me worried for our future.