What advice do you have for me (23F) considering having my bf (23M) moving in with me?
My (23F) boyfriend (23M) is looking for a place to live around my area when his lease ends in late summer. By that point, we will have been together for 9 months.
I just moved back home with my dad in our four bedroom house, meaning two bedrooms are not being used. My dad and boyfriend get along well, with my dad praising him after he has left when he spent a few weekends with us. My relationship with my dad is excellent as well, so no awkward tension for anyone. My dad was actually the one to suggest this idea!
At this point in our relationship (6mo right now), I feel safe and loved. We’ve spent long weekends together & I stayed over for a few week/2 week periods. During those times, we share space pretty well and have similar living expectations and standards. It seems everyday we grow closer and I’m honestly comfortable at the thought of sharing a space. I recognize living with my father may add an uncomfortable element as well, however, he’s often out after work or busy with projects so he’s not one to even bother me when I’m home.
Currently my boyfriend is looking for places to live, either alone or with a roommate, including reduced income housing locations.
I haven’t brought this up to him yet as I want to make sure this offer/discussion is well thought out on my part. I do not expect him to live at home for as long as I do, but however long he needs to get himself stable. Being a recent grad in this job market with no family support is a difficult task! Also, if/when we have this discussion, I will mention I’d expect him to save a stack of cash incase things go south. He wouldn’t be paying rent but expected to help around the house instead (as am I).
TLDR; If you’ve moved in with a partner, what conversations did you have first? What were the hardest things to adjust to? If you’ve regretted moving in with a partner in the past, what would you have done differently?
I’m curious to hear y’all’s thoughts and am open to all feedback.
Posted Apr 9, 2026, 9:22 PM UTC · locked