My husband's family has been pressuring him to contribute either financially or with time to his mother's care, I told him if he does we are getting a divorce. AITAH?

I know it sounds harsh, but we just cannot afford to do so. We have two children, our youngest is non verbal. I no longer work to due our youngest. He already does so much he cannot afford to give up time, and our budget is extremely tight. We are in the processes of downsizing which is unfortunate but we cannot afford to live where we are on a single income.

She has no money, their dad before he passed blew it all on his money on alternative medical treatments for his cancer. Smoked multi packs of cigarettes a day, and was shocked he ended up how he did.

She is not doing well herself but just like most they have an extremely negative stigma regarding nursing homes. I know they are not the best of places but putting your family in debt is no better. His siblings are using credit, taking out loans and stuff to provide care, keep her in her apartment / area. She is mild to moderate stage of dementia. She knows her apartment and area well, but she only manages because my brother and sister in law are going heavily into debt providing the care.

They keep pushing my husband to do more, he helps how he can. He covers a portion of the rent, and pays for groceries from time to time. Compared to what they do that is not much, but we are strapped ourselves.

My husband wants do Uber on the side after work and on the weekends, and i told him that is nuts. His family needs to understand that they have alternatives, they may not like it but sooner or later she will ene up in a home. What they are doing is far from sustainable.

I told my husband if he caves and gives up more money we cannot afford without going into debt ourselves or gives up the limited time he has to be with his family to work uber I will have no choice but to file for divorce, and will have to plan accordingly.

We have looked into me going back to work but with the level of care our child needs it is not exactly a viable option.