What would you do with a mom like mine?

So as we all know life doesnt go as planned. In my case i got married late at the age of 37. No kids but i do wish that i did have some earlier in my life....again...life doesnt go as planned.

Up until getting married i stayed home and sacrificed alot of my life to support my mom and her 3 sisters. They are all widows and i knew they only had me to turn to. So during my teens, my twenties and early 30s i would make myself available to be there when they needed me. As i had gotten older i realized maybe that wasnt the best choice i have made. I witnessed my cousins get married young and move away to begin their life. No one got in the way of that neither was it an issue as that is a way of life.

When i chose to get married it came with hurt, pain, grief and damage. This is when my mom and aunties changed towards me. They began to have this belief that i abandoned them. Which really isnt the case! All i did was also start my life even though it was at a late age but they did not and still do not understand this.

Ive been married for 3 years and i am now 40. Since day one my mom treated my wife like dirt. Always disrespects her, belittles her, mocks her and i have no idea why. I am not placing my wife on some pedestal of glory but she is a awesome person with a heart of gold. All she brought to the family was pure love but i just dont understand why my mom hates her so much.

Yes, my mom makes these comments like "you stole my son from me!"

As a man what was i suppose to do? Stay home with my mom and die alone? Not ever get married and never have kids? Expect to always be her slave? This was never my goal. I feel thats just unfair for any parent to expect from their kids.

On our wedding day i woke up and dressed up for my wedding. My mom never bothered one bit. She was in her room watching tv. She never wished me well, she never sent me off with a blessing. I walked out and drove myself to my own wedding alone. This scene will always haunt me and hurt me till the day i die. My dad though would have been the proudest man alive seeing me on my wedding day but sadly he passed on decades ago. My mom arrived at the wedding late and at the wedding she tried her best to ruin it. She even got someone to steal every single wedding gift that were ours. We had nothing to take with us nor did we not know who to even thank. She went table to table introducing herself and stating that she paid for the wedding which was a lie. My mom did not offer a dime. My wife and i took care of everything ourselves.

Yestersay being the 9th April 2026 my wife and i visited the family as we always do. We both visit with the utmost of respect and love always no matter how terrible my family treats us. Yet yesterday it got out of hand and for the first time ever my wife couldn't take it anymore. She just totally lost it with my mom and this was well deserved as my mom said something so nasty and dark to her.

My wife and i are trying to have kids but my wife is recovering from cancer. She beat it thanks to the lord. My mom actually said to my wife that "she would not have kids as she is damaged goods"

This was really uncalled for and anyone would either lose their temper or break down in tears by that being said to them.

A note to mention that my mom is a full blown narcissist. My mom started the argument yet she stood there and blamed my wife for causing the trouble that occured. No accountability taken as always. So my wife left in tears which wasnt the first time.

I walked out with her and i told my wife never to return to my moms home. She deserves better and i will always stand with her. Why should an innocent person be treated in such a horrible manner? I also decided not to return to my moms home.

This offcourse would come with more issues which would be my mom seeking revenge in some way and spreading false news that my wife and i started such a argument with her for no reason at all. Sad thing is alot of people she speaks to would believe her making us look like the bad ones in this story.

Not too long ago my mom was in hospital. Her own sisters never visited yet my wife was the only one by her bedside feeding her soups, changing her clothes, massaging her sore body and helping her to walk. All this goes unnoticed offcourse.

Im seriously now thinking of packing up and moving to another country with my wife. Away from the madness and family who is just out to harm us.

Im an only child. I have no siblings. A mother having only one child you would think that they would love, cherish and bless that one kid of theirs. Not in this case!

What would you guys do?