simple voice chat mod not working

my voicechat mod doesnt seem to be working no matter what i do. the plug keeps showing and im on the same version as my friend with the same mods (and the same versions on those mods) and everything is working for her but nothing works for me despite reading the wiki and allowing the port and everything else. im at a loss

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