Partner gaming a lot and has very high expectations

Asking on here because I feel like I’m losing my mind. Please someone give an honest opinion.

Tldr : I feel like I do a lot and get not much in return

My partner and I have been together 5 years and lived together for 2. We are at a stage now where I do traditional “woman” things such as cook and clean ( I also work) and he works and games. I want to put it out there that I game too so I fully understand the gaming grind. I don’t mind cooking and cleaning but when the mess feels purposely left it kinda sucks. I also feel if I’m doing the “woman tasks” he should then be doing the more “manly” things such as maintenance, helping with my car changing lightbulbs I don’t know but this doesn’t ever happen since we have moved in.

He stays on games till 3am most days and I feel like I don’t get to spend much time at all with him, we used to play games together a lot! And we both share and have similar hobbies outside of the internet. I try talking to him about this but he instantly goes defensive and says I don’t want him doing what he enjoys or playing with his friends which is not true I encourage his hobbies and also have played with his friends before etc.

It feels as though everytime I need something or want to spend time with him he just declines as he is playing an important game or he will say “ we will do this tommorow” and then we never do.

I really really do not want this relationship to end but I’m becoming detached and upset and he is not listening or understanding me when I tell him.

Am i being over the top here? Please someone give honest opinions because if I am then I want to know