I (24M) haven’t told my girlfriend (23F) of 7 months how broke I was when we met. Should I?

ok so this has been sitting in my head for a while and i just need some outside perspective.

when i asked her out i literally had $40 to my name. like that was it. rent had just hit and payday was still 4 days away. she said yes and my stomach dropped because i had no idea how i was gonna pull this off.

i didn’t cancel. i was too proud to say anything. so i just figured it out.

went to the grocery store, got a blanket from the clearance section, some fruit, cheese, sparkling water. drove to the lake near my place. spent $22 total. we just sat there and talked for like 3 hours. no distractions, no bill at the end.

she told me after it was the most thoughtful date she’d ever been on. i just smiled and said nothing.

7 months later and i still haven’t told her. things are better now financially, nothing crazy but i’m stable. she’s never brought it up and honestly it just never felt like the right moment.

but we’re getting more serious and idk. feels weird keeping it from her? like it’s not a big deal but also it kind of shaped how we started.

do i tell her or just leave it alone?

TL;DR: took her on our first date with $40, spent $22, she loved it, never told her. 7 months in wondering if i should come clean.

Posted Apr 10, 2026, 12:48 AM UTC

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