Need recommendations for sensory need noise-cancelling wireless headphones!

See title, I'm having a really hard time picking between brands of noise cancelling over the ear wireless headphones because all these brands seem so incredibly similar, and if you ask reddit or some other platform "oh hey which of these should I get", every post is propping up one, and flaming the others.

Budget of under $400 (generally)

The big options I'm looking between are the Sony WH-1000XM4/5/6s, 4s seem to no longer be easily on sale or at good prices but are heavily recommended, 5s are on sale but have alleged build quality issues, and 6s are expensive as hell

Sennheiser Momentum 4s, I've heard are good but perhaps are a bit bulky

and (likely Refurbished) Bose QuietComfort Ultras seem good, but I've heard they have problems with just sort of a passive noise with ANC.

Any recommendations or thoughts especially from those who've compared these?

Any feedback welcome thank you! :>