I think I’ve lost my authentic self and don’t know how to get it back

I feel like I’ve lost my authentic self somewhere along the way.

When I’m around people, I’m rarely just there. My mind is constantly scanning everything:

- What are they thinking about me?

- How are they judging me?

- Who is getting attention in this group?

- Why is that person seen as chill/confident/important?

- How should I act right now?

Instead of being present, I’m stuck observing the social dynamics and adjusting myself to fit in. It feels exhausting and honestly makes me feel disconnected from who I really am.

I miss the version of me that wasn’t so self-conscious. The one who could just exist without overthinking every interaction.

How does someone lose themselves like this? And more importantly, how do you come back to yourself?

Has anyone dealt with this and actually changed it?