ANOTHER flake (need to vent)

Fair warning in advance: this post is because I need someplace to vent this out.

My wife and I started our journey down this path very similar to how I assume many of you did. I watched a few cuck/hotwife videos, started to get really turned on by the idea, eventually shared my fantasy with her, she cautiously agreed to explore, we role-played/talked about it for months, and eventually decided to look into actually making it happen.

First experience was a disaster. Dude ghosted us after jerking off to her on a video call twice.

Then we started chatting with another guy. Seemed really chill, but scheduling was difficult because he was across the state. But we wanted to make it work. We went through the effort of planning childcare for the three kids, accommodations for work (it was midweek because he couldn't do nights), booked a hotel, everything. Then the DAY before, he cancelled because he got sick. We obviously understand life happens, but were extremely disappointed. He then bailed on another potential meeting with just my wife during one of her work trips. Again, we understand life happens, but at this point, we decided to try to find someone closer to home to make scheduling a bit more realistic.

I was very picky this time around. Wanted someone we could vibe with, would be respectful and would match what we were looking for. Chatted with another guy for a day and half to vet him before introducing my wife into the mix.

Things were going great. We were sharing pics and videos, dirty messages, talking about all the fun we were going to have. It seemed like the perfect fit.

Scheduled a playdate for a Friday afternoon. Late, late Wednesday night he messaged us that he can't make it. Once again, we are reasonable people. We get it. Life happens. So we circle another Friday in pencil in two weeks that should work.

Monday night, I message him - hey, just wanted to confirm we are good for Friday. Needed to start locking in logistics for childcare, etc., if we were going to actually go through with it. But I didn't want to go through ALL that trouble again just to have someone bail last minute. At this point, he just straight up stops responding to us. We even sent a sexy video to him; no response.

As I've said NUMEROUS times, we are reasonable people. We understand things come up. It's just so wildly frustrating. Our schedule can be insanely busy - especially as of late. With kids and work, trying to carve out time is a chore. And even moreso to take time to weed through all the BS on here to find someone you vibe with, are attracted to, and interested in joining us for our fantasies.

TLDR; Disappointed it has taken us so long to find good play partners.