AITAH for cutting a friend out of my life
I have never post here but I have a situation that I don’t know how to deal with.
I (f26) have a friend (f28) that I met in the country I am living now (far away from home) and she was born back in the same country as me but we never met there before, we had a friend in common who connected us online.
We clicked instantly in many topics and had a lot in common, we hanged a lot and even travelled around together. She had planned to stay just for the summer but she came back with scholarships to study a master back where we met.
She got her own place but I moved to another area in the same country so every time I go there, I stay with her but there has been weird moments were I feel uncomfortable when she starts nagging me any time I talk about any issue with my boyfriend, almost every time she tells me to break up with him even when she knows I just signed a legal partnership with him.
Well, this weekend she came over to stay at my boyfriend’s and mine to catch up, first night we go to a bar and I don’t know how the conversation came up but she said something like if we would have met before we would have definitely kiss, maybe even more. We are both bisexual, she is single but I have my partner, so I just shrugged it off and laughed. She has made this type of weird comments before but not so directly like that.
What felt she was so weird with my boyfriend whenever there was an interaction. We were smoking that could be a reason or so I thought, but even when sober, she would just talk to me and ignore him, even if he tried making conversation with her, she was responding so little. It felt off.
When we were all together trying to get them to know each other my boyfriend started massaging my head a bit since she sat across the room and after he left she started doing the same to me, and she asked me “does it bother you?”, I just leaned a bit apart and just watched the serie in silence for a while. Maybe I am overreacting but I didn’t feel so comfortable.
I am glad that she left but she has been a good friend aside from these weird incidents, I think I might stop talking to her, AITHA?
Posted Apr 24, 2026, 8:23 PM UTC · locked