how can i stop being an incel and finally get a girlfriend?

ive never actually had a girlfriend. i do take care of myself and id say im decent looking maybe a 5/10 and also my only real hobbies are skating and playing guitar, so i dont have much else going on outside of that.. not even gaming anyway most of the time, a lot of girls end up thinking that im a '"femboy" and while some find me cute, they never seem interested in anything serious, ive only been asked out twice, and both times it was by people much younger than me. i just cant seem to find anyone my own age. i think im a kind person and I’m definitely not overbearing, but for some reason, people usually just lose interest in talking to me after a while, conversations are basically a deadend for me. what do i do? please explain precisely im kinda dumb its hard for me to follow instructions.