How to orgasm while riding? (Question for women only)

I’m 32F, and I’m honestly overwhelmed when it comes to this 🏇

When I was younger, I used to have orgasms without using my hands: by crossing my legs and engaging my pelvic muscles. In my 20s, I discovered clitoral stimulation with my hand, and I was always able to orgasm that way with my ex-boyfriend. However, I was never on top with him.

Now I have a new partner, and sometimes I’m on top, but I have no idea how to orgasm in that position. He makes me very horny btw so that’s not the problem. It feels like too many things at once: moving my legs, moving my pelvis (back and forth?), and at the same time trying to focus on pelvic floor tension/relief and clitoral stimulation, whether by him or myself.

I also think part of the issue is that I tend to need a lot of tension in my legs to orgasm, and that makes certain positions harder for me.

I’ve also never been someone who “grinds” on pillows or similar, so I feel like I might be missing some kind of experience there.

I get completely overwhelmed and don’t really know what muscles I’m supposed to engage or how exactly to move.

So I guess my question is:

What kind of movement do you actually do when you’re on top? Do you start more relaxed and then build tension? Or do you actively contract and release your muscles in a certain rhythm?

Maybe someone with a similar „masturbation background“ (lol) can relate and share what worked for them.

I know this is kind of a complicated question, and I do know what an orgasm feels like—but in this position I just feel lost.

I’d really appreciate hearing about your experiences and any tips. Thank you xx