Grindr and love, a real mess! Help

Married, met a guy on Grindr who’s really everything I ever dreamed in a man physically. If my bf doesn’t care, how far can I push this?

We have the space. I’d like him to move him and sleep with me and I’ll find someone to sleep with my husband. I love him or I’d leave. I have no physical attraction to my husband but he’s 65 and I don’t want a divorce. He once tried to ban me from the U.S. by offering me a lot of cash and to rip up my passport. Solution?