How tf is anyone using these textured base toys?

I’ve been looking for a toy that gives me some stimulation while wearing a strap, and I’m starting to feel very gaslit haha. I don’t understand how attachable dildo bases (bananapants lippi for example) or dildos with texture at the bottom (feeldoe for example) are supposed to work at all??? Is everyone else positioning their strap super low and closer to their junk rather than higher on the pubic bone like a regular dick? If everyone is doing that how are you keeping the same stability on your thrusts? Seems way more awkward but maybe there’s strat to this? The answer can’t just be anatomy, because I honestly can’t think of one person I’ve been with whose anatomy would work for these toys! What am I missing here haha has anyone had a decent experience or have other suggestions to try? 🤦🏻‍♂️