Transparent with your partner

The partner question! I saw this a lot so sharing my thoughts on this

If you have a partner you owe them the truth. No need a full confession dump on day 1 and not every detail either, but you definitely owe them the truth. They deserve to know what's going on in the relationship.

The priority stays quitting though IMO. Many learn this the hard way, unloading everything the moment they decide to quit, which most of the time at this point isn't really about the partner but more about themselves ,wanting to feel better by getting it off their chest.

Timing matters. Id tell them when you're steady enough to actually have the conversation. Not in a panic or mid-relapse, not at 2am when you feel like s***.

One we also really have to sit with: "this is OUR problem. Not Theirs". They didn't cause it, and they can't fix it (I mean this), and their job isn't to police us. Your job is to do the work and let your partner decide what they want to do with the truth once they have it, period.

Be honest and steady, and don't make your partner carry it.