AITAH wanting to leave abusive bf (36M) ?

So I will be very honest here and I know some people will tell me things are horrible already so here it is. I (21F) have been with my LD bf (36M) for roughly four months. It started great he was kind. loving, understanding. But there have always been red flags. Recently he’s been accusing me of cheating and I him constantly. I finally told him that I do have a friend ( this person is a transgender woman) and that we talk occasionally. He began to accuse me of cheating saying I am having a relationship with this person and that I love them and drool over their penis.

My boyfriend cheated on me with a friend of mine he didn’t know I knew. He cheated through snapchat and sent nudes and lied about it only coming clean when I had evidence. He told me i had a “free pass” so I talked to a guy I knew in the past never sent nudes or anything but the guy did send nude pictures. My bf hasn’t let it go since eventhough I stayed after he disrespected me a lot before he cheated. He calls me a dummy, whore, evil whore, bitch, stupid, retard, knowing I hate foul language and being called names. The trans woman I have been friends with is actually someone from his snapchat he hid a year long snap streak with. Once I found out he unadded her and I added her to confirm they never had anything because he’s a straight man vocal about being straight but had this hidden person. Now she and I have a snap streak and talk every so often. I don’t tell him because he will get very angry and blow things out of proportion ever since he cheated he assumes i’m cheating and what not. I still gave him a chance after he cheated. Anyway all day he’s accused me of sleeping with this person, called me names, said i’m an evil whore like his ex ( who slept with his best friend), keeps saying fuck me, won’t listen to reason. Eventhough I had the friend ( Ken) write a paragraph oh how we are not dolling around also they have a girlfriend. I want to leave him now because of the verbal abusive i’ve endured today. Am i the asshole?