Privileged in some regards, underprivileged in others. How do you deal with it?

Privileged in some regards, underprivileged in others. How do people deal with it?

When it comes to privilege, there is the tendency to view it homogeneously - you’re either privileged or not. But I think there are many cases where it’s far more complex than that. Someone from a upper class family can still be chronically abused by their parents growing up

I myself have an experience with it, though in a much, much milder case than the aforementioned one. I came from a lower middle class family. While I’m not rich by any standard, I did have my own room and desk, something most folks from working class don’t have in my country. I never have to get hungry or wear tattered clothes growing up. I was given the chances to attend classes like ballet and piano

My mum, on the other hand, never had it as a child. She grew up being physically abused by a drunk dad, having to fight her siblings for food, and left home at 16 to make end’s meet. Her situation was terrible, and she was far less privileged than I do. My privilege is partly her own labour(like choosing to not beat me up). I would never deny it

The thing is that she would never stop talking about it, and she refused to empathise with me growing up. When I told her how much her shouts and insults and threats to abandon me hurt me as a child, she dismissed it completely by comparing it to her childhood. When I told her how worthless and afraid I felt when I was shamed by her victim-blaming when I was bullied in school, with no one to defend me, and my only choice being to shut down my perception and engagement with the world, she reminded me how much she had it worse as a child. And every time I felt resentful, I was called spoiled

Towards the outside world, sometimes it is hard to reconcile this too. Most people automatically see you as immune to suffering the moment they find out you’re from a higher socioeconomic status. So you can’t really talk about your life at all, unless you experienced some extremely terrible experience like being tortured or abducted as a child. It can be a rather isolating experience

I know that some people are on a more extreme end of this, like perhaps they were from an actually rich family, and was severely psychologically abused as a child. For those people, how exactly do you deal with it?