To go back to work or not to go back to work

Parental Leave/Work

I have to make a tough decision to accept a job offer or not - I’ve talked it through every which way with my husband and we just don’t know what to do. So I’m hoping some anecdotes from this community might help?

We are moving to my husband’s country where he has a job lined up. The pay is good but we won’t save any money. I have a job offer that starts in Aug (I am a teacher) when my baby will be 9 months old. The pay is decent for the city and we would live a comfortable life.

I don’t want to take my baby to daycare that young, (and we don’t have family that can help), but the ultimate catch is that we want to have a second baby and this country has a verrry generous maternity leave… but only if I have worked for at least a year. I’m in my mid 30s so we don’t want to wait years.

SO, I go back to work for a year, putting 9 month old in daycare, and then take two years off with maternity benefits to have a second baby OR I stay home with my baby and still have a baby in a couple years and forego 2-3 years of a salary in the meantime.

What would you do?

Posted Apr 29, 2026, 6:49 AM UTC

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