Family pressure lead to break up and got assaulted by my ex for it. (Please say any words of comfort or advices)

I don't even know where to begin.

I'm a private university student studying in the fields of allied health science. Previously I had done my OLs by the age of 14 and ALs by the age of 16, so I am the youngest in my batch.

So, I met my boyfriend through social media and after weeks of talking and chatting we finally started dating. He was from a poor background while I was from a well-off family. So naturally my parents despised him from the beginning but we kept this relationship going on for 1 year.

I was even cut off my allowance of 25K a month but I still somehow collected the little money I was given and went on dates with him, helped him with finding a job and everything I possibly could.

I’m a university student who recently got out of a relationship that started off really good. We didn’t have much money, but we were genuinely happy—simple dates, long walks, talking all the time. He became a big part of my daily life, and I got very used to sharing everything with him.

Over time, things changed. There were signs of anger and control that I didn’t fully recognize at first. Eventually, it escalated to him becoming physically aggressive and threatening me. It reached a point where he was arrested.

I was assaulted dreadfully and he hit my head and spine with a rock at least 10 times.

I ended the relationship, but I’m still struggling emotionally. I don’t miss the bad parts—I know those were serious and unacceptable—but I really miss the routine, the connection, and the version of him I fell in love with. Sometimes I even question if I lost something special, or if I’m overreacting.

People around me have told me I did the right thing and that it could have gotten worse, but I still feel confused and attached.

Has anyone else gone through something like this? How do you stop missing the “good parts” and fully accept that leaving was the right decision?

I’d really appreciate any advice or perspective. Thank you.