My (22f) bf’s (23m) behavior triggers me so much. How do you cope with this?

We’ve been together since 4 months and I know he likes me and cares about me but his brain just works “differently”. He is avoidant and lazy. I communicated to him so many times how lonely I feel when he disappears for days, when he lets me know last minute the exact time we’re meeting etc. He knows this and he’s clearly doing some steps towards me, he tries to stay in touch with me during the days we don’t see each other etc. but sometimes we end up falling in that loop and this behavior triggers my anxiety.

Yesterday I told him I missed him because we didn’t see each other for 3/4 days so we asked to meet.

He replied with an emoji to my “I miss you” and asked “dinner tonight or tomorrow?”

And then he just… disappeared. I texted him multiple times and waited the whole evening for his reply.

The reply arrived at around 10:30.

I overcame my anxious attachment months ago but the way he treats me triggers that anxious side of me.

And I know that he doesn’t do it on purpose, but I’m just too tired of explaining how I feel when this stuff happens.

I’m not one of those person who is able to just let it go. It consumes me and resentment just starts building up.

Maybe we’re just incompatible and I’m afraid this incompatibility will just become bigger and bigger the more time passes