I(F21) want my husband(M21) to have a better relationship with me, can you help?

I guess I should first start off by saying yes we’re both young. I understand that completely. We got married at around 19 I believe so we’ve been married for about 2 years now. At first our relationship was great, so much fun and everything was super healthy. Then overtime… He started playing video games every day.. at first it didn’t bother me because he has stressful work days so I just enjoyed when he could relax and at least we were in the same room.. But every single day for 2 years… no dates.. no flowers… no texts… no little romantic things! He would just come home and go on the game. I’d cook, he wouldn’t get off the game and so I’d bring his dinner to his gaming desk… I’d clean, I’d wash clothes, fold clothes, put them away, make our bed, clean the house altogether, take care of our cats(2). Which yes, I don’t have a job so I was fine with it. But staying home all day… Cleaning and waiting for my lover to get home… Takes a toll on me i guess.

I felt more like a house maid than a lover. I wanted him to come home and greet me with kisses and sit with me at the table. I use to ask him to. Men can’t read your mind. I’d communicate how I felt and he said “Okay I will” and never would. He doesn’t even cuddle with me either I guess. So recently I started getting I guess angry. I was tired of being sad all the time my sadness has turned into anger. I yell at him all the time now after months of asking him “Effort?” “Can you just write me letters before work? Maybe like a small ‘I love you’ on a piece of paper?” He’d say sure.. That never happens.. I say “Can you take me out on a date?” He’d say sure… Never happens. He complains dates cost money. I say “Okay well how about we just go for a walk! Spend time together” He’d say no. Make up an excuse. I just feel like i’ve pulled out every card I can.

Eventually tonight I asked him “Why?” I was sobbing and upset. “Why can’t you? What is it?” he finally admits to me it’s because we don’t have sex. Lately my mental health has taken a toll since I’ve been very depressed with the way my relationship has been so my Libido has gone straight to hell… We still do have “moments” once or twice a month but he’s upset about it not being twice a week…. I say “Well if you want that to happen more I could use some romance…” he goes “No. You want that stuff? You want Flowers, Dates, Pictures taken of you, thoughtful gestures, and more romance? You should think about having more sex with me.” it just makes me… I guess feel defeated. Sure I could fix our relationship by forcing myself to have intercourse with him. He’d eventually take me out and yeah i’d be happier with the romantic stuff I’ve been begging for, for months… But it feels… wrong.

I don’t want a divorce. I am not that sexually active either… I want him to love me. I want all those things but I don’t want to feel like i’m being used. He says we’re young, 21. We should have sex every other day like other couples do… But.. I just wish my life with him was different. He’s telling me how he won’t do anything first, I have to have sex with him first. But in my dreams he comes home and surprises me with flowers and we eat dinner together at the table, no phones. We cuddle to sleep or maybe he’ll take me out to a date where we go like mini golfing, or the arcade, or even a long walk on the beach…? Then I will wake up and realize this isn’t my reality.

I don’t know. I want your thoughts on this. How can I fix my relationship? What can I say to help him understand my side and start being romantic? Is there something I am missing on his side as well?

TL;DR: Been with Husband for 2 years. I want flowers, dates, and effort yet haven’t received anything after countless communication… All he does 24/7 Is work, game till hours past midnight, sleep, wake up, work, repeat. Mental health has went down the drain so sex has gone down as well. He is now saying he won’t do anything I ask unless we have sex multiple times a week. Yet I am not really ever “In the mood”, Also having insecurities of being used… Questioning why he isn’t being romantic due to our emotional connection and only for sex. So we’re at a standstill where we both aren’t getting what we want. I don’t want a divorce and that’s where our relationship is heading. I can’t be in the mood without feeling emotionally nourished and he won’t emotionally nourished me without sex. Is there a way we can both get what we want and be happy or is it too late.