Traumatized men

This guy I was dating used to tell me stories of how traumatized he was since he was a kid.His mom was a single mom,4 kids, 4 different dads.

They're all boys. He's the first born.His mom was abused while he was young,like beaten up,raped,cut with blades...and he blames himself for not defending her,,,I used to remind him that he was just a kid and there's he could do. I hated it that he kept crying over that shit likee bro get over it....your mom is fine now,ata the mom doesn't talk about it that much.So he's always stepping up to help the mom with everything ata kama she hasn't asked to,,yet himself he doesn't want to grow. He gets alot of money but yote anapea mamake...that shit didn't make sense to me. His mom on the other side is somehow "taking advantage " of the fact that the son can never say no to her,she doesn't care about his growth.He never liked anything about life,always negative.I would suggest we go on concerts,night outs,hiking,parties, picnics,,he just sayed no and I couldn't convince him to. We'd go on several dates tho...that wasn't enough for me,I like having fun.

Personally, I struggled to understand him... until I had to call that shit off.I broke up with him after cheating multiple times.

Bro is still trying to be everything the family needs at this moment. His siblings even call him Dad. yoow

Traumatized men?? Never again