Should I ask my ex to delete intimate photos of me? :(

Recently I’ve been weighed down by past mistakes including allowing my ex to take explicit images of me. In my view the situation was not fully consensual in the way it developed. He would often get me intoxicated and film me and over time after a lot of psychological manipulation and abuse I began sending images willingly.I recently came across a post he made before we started dating when he was about 16. The context of the post was that people were calling a girl who got leaked promiscuous( can’t say the derogatory term he used) and that they better shut up because he has an entire memory card of their pictures and they might get posted next. I do not have full context for the post but it unsettled me in hindsight given my own situation.I also remember a moment when he was scrolling through his camera roll and I briefly saw what looked like a nude image of a girl. I cannot be completely sure what I saw but I remember him quickly hiding it and moving past it. This makes me believe he doesn’t delete images.
For context I was 19 when we started dating and he was 24. I grew up in a sheltered abusive home and feel like I ended up in a very unhealthy situation with someone who took advantage of that. I do not want any contact with him but I feel deeply uncomfortable knowing he may still have intimate images of me. I am struggling with shame and not knowing what to do or how to cope with this.

Posted Apr 29, 2026, 7:55 AM UTC

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