Sex this, sex that... Do any of you have sexless lesbian relationships and feel just as fulfilled?
High-libido and sex-havers need not apply for this thread... I get it, it's important to you, please. Move on.
My girlfriend and I do not have sex. In the beginning of our relationship, there was maybe a one or two time romp that happened, before we both just had the conversation of being fully uninterested in having sex. I don't think it makes me feel closer, if anything I just feel fully disinterested by it? And my girlfriend feels the same. We do a lot of kissing, cuddling, a lot of physical and emotional affection, playing games, drawing together, going out to eat, the works, and feel just as close and fulfilled. Honestly sometimes it seems as if we're the odd ones out, being uninterested in that dynamic of a relationship. I don't identify as ace personally, because it's not that, it's just... not really a care or focus of mine. Thankfully we've been together 8 going on 9 years, so there's no real worry in my mind of having to recover that dynamic with someone else.
Anyways... anyone else? Just curious. Does it work out for you? Have you had any struggles, felt like you're 'less' because of the disinterest?
Posted Apr 29, 2026, 7:56 AM UTC