At a loss

I’ve posted about it this before but need to again. Nk (2.5) has been having really intense meltdowns for about 5 months now. Usually triggered by wanting specific parent. They last sometimes hours.

It feels like she is absolutely inconsolable unless she gets the parent she wants.

Nk refuses any comfort from me, so lately I’ve been giving her space while still ensuring she knows I’m around if wanted. I’ll even do parallel play but she usually gets more triggered with me in sight.

The parents and I are at a loss with how to manage.

When are the level of meltdowns considered “not normal”