How did you successfully escape (two scottish) narcissist parents?

Those who were raised by alcoholics who were also extreme narcissists how did you find your way out and reach financial emotional and social security, balance and heal from years of emotional verbal and physical abuse? I tried deep breathing keeping busy exercise but the episodes of the abuse haunt my every decision making process and ability to find focus. I do not believe in taking medication to mask the symptoms and produce harmful lifelong damaging have side effects. Anyone who survived please please share