I’ve noticed people don’t always move past surface level connection with me. What are some possible emotional or social dynamics that could cause that?

What I mean by a surface level connection I mean just a hey how you been and that’s pretty much it, but not wanting to get deeper or talk past that. That’s how my family is. They don’t try to talk to me or get to really know me, but then they blame me, and throw it back on me like I seem uninterested. When that’s not the case, I Mirror what they’re already showing me. I wish they would just be honest and say they don’t care for me instead.