I (31M) Will End My Relationship of 7 Years With My Fiancé (28F) at The End of This Week Over Blowjobs And Lack of Sexual Chemistry

Burner account of course. I never thought I'd be writing this after years and to make things worse we have a. beautiful child. But I've had enough. I can't picture myself to be one of these guys at work that complain about their wives all the time over everything, especially sex. At it takes is a few drinks then they would spill the beans about everything. They always envied me over the fact that my relationship seemed "perfect" however I lied to protect myself image since I'm the one of 2 black people in a predominantly white branch at the company.

My first girlfriend (now-ex) spoiled me with sex, blowjobs, and spontaneous adventures. I can recall the excitement of her always trying to do new things to spruce up our constant sex cycles. We dated for almost 5 years. Despite her being one the worst emotionally toxic people I've ever met, she taught me one of the best lessons I've learned about relationships. One day I asked her why does she seem to be "in the mood" so much. She gave me a very frank answer and said "sometimes I'm not in the mood, but you are and I do it for you. And sometimes I could tell that you're not in the mood, but you still do it for me. But the best sex is when we are both in the mood". That answer made me realize how right she was. We were both people pleasers at its core which made us both give in whenever each of us wanted it. Of course there were the definitive "no I don't want it at all" days but those were very few.

Now I'm in a relationship with a more reserved girl that started off great. I was VERY vocal about how important sex is to me. Not only about what kind of sex I liked, but the types of sex, the build up to sex, and the spontaneous types of sex. I'm the type of man who wants to foreplay, tease, perform oral, make you orgasm, then penetration to get you off again. I do expect that in return as well. She did it for the first couple years. Then things started to decline slowly: kissing went first, then the spontaneous aspect, and lastly blowjobs. Sex frequency went from 3-4 times a week (which I said is a requirement for marriage and she agreed) to once a week. She seems more interested in me sticking it in so she can get off, then done. 20 mins later I'm in my office jerking off because I'm unsatisfied with my orgasm. I've told her countless times about what I enjoyed, asked her what she liked got the usual "everything you do feels amazing" answer all the time. Ultimately, I feel she got too comfortable with our relationship and stopped trying to impress me.

Some of you may say I'm selfish for leaving my family over sex. To be honest I don't care anymore about opinions. I can't wait to finally be honest to my friends, family, and eventually I will tell my child when he gets older about the reason I left his mother. I just refuse to live my life as a 50 year old man in a dead bedroom situation who pretends to be happy, but is going to the massage parlours when he's supposed to be at work.

TLDR: I got bait and switched with my Fiancée about sex, so I'll be breaking up with her over her lack of blowjobs and sexual compatibility.